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Being Truthful With Yourself



By Victoria Taylor


Being truthful with yourself…


There is something about the month of October that causes us to slow down and examine our lifestyle choices. Conferences all over the globe will be taking place this month…I believe it should be deemed as the national conference month because women from all walks of life will hover together hoping and praying to hear something that will refresh them, something that will inspire them to do better than what they have been doing for the past 10 months. Whether it’s a conference for breast cancer awareness, domestic violence, wellness; finances or spiritually, it is all geared to a lifestyle change.


You step in the doors and it’s alive, the message from the speaker seems as if he or she is speaking directly to you. You leave encouraged, awestruck, feeling a sense of renewal…then it gradually wares off. And why is that? Maybe it’s because you went home and pulled off that fabulous outfit, and while sitting there you unlatch the straps from your heels and began to examine your current situation. Those positive thoughts became negative thoughts; you began to feel as if you will never get to where you would like to be. “Maybe it’s not meant to be,” you say to yourself…“maybe I was only meant for what I have, where I am and what I am doing now, and by far, I have done fairly well for my age.” So you settle, and that’s the worst thing you could do.


We know ourselves better than anyone, and it frustrates us; that’s why we live off of the enthusiasm of others. We love to be told we can make it, constantly, and that “we are the greatest thing since slice bread,” but we may not hear those specific words everyday, so what do you do?


The fastest way to get refreshed is to be true with yourself. The conference may very well be over, but you have got to learn to deal with life differently or you will be zapped until next year’s conference. Sure you’ve had some bad experiences, but life is not over. You’ve got to encourage yourself. Take yourself to a place of serenity and make continual visits.


Let’s be honest with ourselves, we can only see a glimpse of where we are headed. But God painted the entire universe. It’s filled with vibrant colors, music, green pastures, peace and love, but we only tend to focus on the gray matter, the dark corners, misery road and grumble alley. Sure you will feel some lonesomeness at times, you may even run into a few thunder storms, and dry patches, but it will not destroy you, it will only make you stronger. God wants to give you more than what you have settled for. You can hide amongst the jubilant crowd of women, but when it’s all said and done, you must deal with the real reason why you can’t get over that hump. If you only knew how much he adores you, you would be smiling everyday. No need to shuck or jive with this one because he made you honey and he loves you.


We cannot change who you are, but we can accept the magnificent plans that God has for each of us. Jeremiah 29:11 reads, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”. God is a universal God who cares for each and every one of us as if we were the only one in the world. He loves you and wishes you all the best in this life. Wanting what he wants for you is not a mystery. It starts with your mind.  Then it gets into your heart and then you start to believe what is coming out of your mouth.


You can have a conference with God any day, anywhere, at anytime if you need clarity about the plans he has for you.


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Victoria Taylor is the newest member of the Coily Family and is the publisher/editor of the online magazine Renew Your Mind. She lives in California with her husband and two children. Her goal is to connect with women all over the world and let them know that they are not alone in this world  “We are all related in some beautiful way.”  She encourages women to seek help from their creator who knows them better than they know themselves.


"You are a beautiful soul hand-crafted for greatness."  ~Victoria Taylor