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Being Truthful With Yourself



By Victoria Taylor


Being truthful with yourself…


There is something about the month of October that causes us to slow down and examine our lifestyle choices. Conferences all over the globe will be taking place this month…I believe it should be deemed as the national conference month because women from all walks of life will hover together hoping and praying to hear something that will refresh them, something that will inspire them to do better than what they have been doing for the past 10 months. Whether it’s a conference for breast cancer awareness, domestic violence, wellness; finances or spiritually, it is all geared to a lifestyle change.


You step in the doors and it’s alive, the message from the speaker seems as if he or she is speaking directly to you. You leave encouraged, awestruck, feeling a sense of renewal…then it gradually wares off. And why is that? Maybe it’s because you went home and pulled off that fabulous outfit, and while sitting there you unlatch the straps from your heels and began to examine your current situation. Those positive thoughts became negative thoughts; you began to feel as if you will never get to where you would like to be. “Maybe it’s not meant to be,” you say to yourself…“maybe I was only meant for what I have, where I am and what I am doing now, and by far, I have done fairly well for my age.” So you settle, and that’s the worst thing you could do.


We know ourselves better than anyone, and it frustrates us; that’s why we live off of the enthusiasm of others. We love to be told we can make it, constantly, and that “we are the greatest thing since slice bread,” but we may not hear those specific words everyday, so what do you do?


The fastest way to get refreshed is to be true with yourself. The conference may very well be over, but you have got to learn to deal with life differently or you will be zapped until next year’s conference. Sure you’ve had some bad experiences, but life is not over. You’ve got to encourage yourself. Take yourself to a place of serenity and make continual visits.


Let’s be honest with ourselves, we can only see a glimpse of where we are headed. But God painted the entire universe. It’s filled with vibrant colors, music, green pastures, peace and love, but we only tend to focus on the gray matter, the dark corners, misery road and grumble alley. Sure you will feel some lonesomeness at times, you may even run into a few thunder storms, and dry patches, but it will not destroy you, it will only make you stronger. God wants to give you more than what you have settled for. You can hide amongst the jubilant crowd of women, but when it’s all said and done, you must deal with the real reason why you can’t get over that hump. If you only knew how much he adores you, you would be smiling everyday. No need to shuck or jive with this one because he made you honey and he loves you.


We cannot change who you are, but we can accept the magnificent plans that God has for each of us. Jeremiah 29:11 reads, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”. God is a universal God who cares for each and every one of us as if we were the only one in the world. He loves you and wishes you all the best in this life. Wanting what he wants for you is not a mystery. It starts with your mind.  Then it gets into your heart and then you start to believe what is coming out of your mouth.


You can have a conference with God any day, anywhere, at anytime if you need clarity about the plans he has for you.


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Victoria Taylor is the newest member of the Coily Family and is the publisher/editor of the online magazine Renew Your Mind. She lives in California with her husband and two children. Her goal is to connect with women all over the world and let them know that they are not alone in this world  “We are all related in some beautiful way.”  She encourages women to seek help from their creator who knows them better than they know themselves.


"You are a beautiful soul hand-crafted for greatness."  ~Victoria Taylor





Is That My Inner Voice?


Is That My Inner Voice?

By Myiesha Taylor, M.D.

Myiesha Taylor, M.D.In order to realize your full potential, you have to listen to your inner voice. That "gut feeling" or intuition that we possess guides us to our higher good. Our desires are of the Divine, placed in our hearts to help direct us in the way we should go. When we ignore our desires, and fail to follow the guidance of our intuition, we become frustrated.


My life so far has been an exercise in following the rules. If my mother told me something was good for me, I believed her. I realized that, if I followed the rules, things were good. My mother was always right, and I had a happy life.


This sentiment carried on through college, medical school, and residency. See, as a doctor-in-training, your educational course is all predetermined. If you study, do well on exams, participate in the curriculum, and have a good attitude...you will become a doctor. Once you become a doctor, everything will just "fall into place." Your dream job will appear, and you'll suddenly have everything in life you've ever wanted...or so the fantasy goes.


The thing is, very few of us think about life *beyond* this point - that is, until we get there.


I had a "good job" as an attending physician. Everyone seemed to think it was a very "safe" and respectable job. Many people spent their entire careers there. I was very excited to join this group.


But then, I became frustrated. And I was unsure why. Was it the frequency of my shifts? Maybe I was working too much, I thought. So I cut back.


But that didn't quite do it.


So I decided that my "dream job" would materialize if I went back and obtained more specialized training. I applied for, and got accepted into a medical toxicology program. And, even though I had some reservations...I figured "nothing worth having is easy."


I started the program, and immediately I had the feeling this path was not in line with my heart desires. But, was this feeling a feeling of "laziness" because I didn't want to do the work? Was it a lack of self-confidence that I could complete the program? Was it simply fatigue (after being in school for so long)? Was I worried about money realizing that I'm missing out on the opportunity to do real ER work in lieu of this (low-paying) fellowship?


I didn't want to jump ship prematurely if my feelings of frustration were rooted in my focus on negativity. After all, you cannot simply quit when the going gets tough, or else you will never accomplish anything worthwhile.


So how do we know if the feelings we feel are whisperings from the Universe to our Soul attempting to align us with our greater good, verses just our own human insecurities masquerading as "insight?"


When we are young, these messages are often crossed.  It is indeed difficult to decipher between your ‘inner voice’ and all of the other ‘background noise’ in our heads.  But through life experiences, if we pay attention, we begin to hear the difference between the two. Meditation

Initially, typically in our early to mid 20s, we are unable to hear the Universe talking to us in a whisper.  We continue on our course of action, unable to hear the Universe in the whisper – so the Universe gets louder (as our discontent rise).  And this continues in this way until a hammer comes down on our head (sometimes literally)!  This is the Universe *shouting* at us.  If we take intermittent moments of quiet time to analyze our actions and our lives (success, failures, and all), retrospectively we realize that “that voice” was there all along.  The “lesson” becomes obvious as we replay the events in our lives, and learn from them.


As we become wiser, the Universe doesn’t have to shout as loud for as long.  Something inside of us becomes acutely aware that “our direction is misguided” earlier and we are able to switch course, thereby avoiding the young adult catastrophes we may have endured in our early adult years.  We are able to “hear” the whisperings of the Universe (or at least the soft voices).  These ‘whisperings’ are your inner voices, your Divine energy, that is what you are.


So your challenge is to silent the background noise.  If you are able to let go of the ‘distractions’ and focus on your very essence – the loving energy, the teacher, the peace-maker, and all things good; your life path will become clear, your purpose revealed, and your Soul able to experience the peace and happiness you came here to experience.